The Power of Pain

Pain is a territory I’m very familiar with but there are two types of pain. Good pain and bad pain and believe me it is important to know so that you don’t suppress or rush to relief yourself anytime you feel pain.

Pain can be described as an unwanted and sometimes unexpected emotion that disrupts the peace of any process or thing.

Good pain leads positively while bad pain has no true home. Examples of good pain are discomfort during workouts, punishment/fines for bad behavior, hurt from human beings etc. while bad pain could be heartbreak, accidents, disappointments and more.

There are ways to manage both to your benefit but try to avoid bad pain as much as necessary because it ruins our innocence and robs us of our livelihood.

Managing Good Pain

1. Recognize the source and go into self observation mode to understand why the pain is present so you don’t miss the message.

2. Master it. Study about it, do your research.

3. Reinforce it to push you towards short and long term goals.

4. Make it routine if possible.

Managing Bad Pain

1. Depending on your mental and emotional literacy, lean towards and understanding what is really hurting. Sometimes there is either deeper meaning/reason.

2. Self correction i.e. stop with the over-the-top expectations of others etc.

3. Don’t be too cautious and learn discernment.

I hope this gives you more insight and teaches you that pain is not a sign to stop, exhaustion is – so on that note, allow pain push you forward 🖤

Hugs,

LovingAdeola.

OUFIT DETAILS;

JUMPSUIT – ASOS

PUMPS – FOREVER21

BAG – HM

HAIR – CROWNSNLASHES

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Happy Valentines Day Adeola!

Hey loves!

As you may or may not know, I have been single for a year now and it has been an adventurous, emotional and rewarding journey!

I’m the happiest i have ever been and this time last year suicide was an option. I thank God because that will have been foolish of me. I have so much to give and say to the world before I leave so it doesn’t even make any sense!

I’ve been dating since I was sixteen and believe me, I was forced to grow up quickly and experienced more than I needed to which in turn affected my developing stages and habits I developed socially and personally. I also had no sense of self. In summary, I did not love myself.

Fast forward, I fell in love, it ended and then I was left to fix the mess I had created. For the first time in my life, the pain of the break up led me to ruthlessly chase happiness and ensure it never left me.

I’m doing fine now and loving me has been a journey I don’t regret – I’m reaching beautiful destinations 🖤

Got a dinner to go to?

Hey loves!

This outfit came to me when I realized I had some outfits with the rose patch trend and I knew it would look great together.

It can be worn to a birthday dinner at a pricy restaurant as the leather jacket dresses it down. You can also wear this to a day party or on a date with your spouse if going somewhere formal.

The dress is from a boutique called ‘ENVY U’ in Catonsville, Maryland while the jacket is from the forever 21 plus.

As a plus size lady, black is good for a classy & neat look as well as slimming one’s waist.

Would you wear this?