Female friendships: What I’ve Learnt!

Hey girls!

I hope you are well and this post hits home like it did for me. In my life, I’ve been blessed with beautiful and strong female friends that pull me up and keep me grounded.

Friend – Oreoluwa Adeniji, Model.

You will see pictures of them in this post as I magically shot pictures with a few of them to create fashion looks that will inspire you today!

Anyway….

The next series of points are gems that I have learnt from my female friendships on how I keep the relationships alive, peaceful and fruitful;

Friend – Ronke Raji, Influencer

1. Honesty at all times. One lie just leads to another and think of your friends as your supporters. Another set of parameters that God has placed in your life to help you live and make better decisions. Telling one lie and then another about anything is a recipe for disaster.

2. Pace yourself with these friendships. I personally tend to keep to myself if I meet a female and hear any traces of lack of self love because I know they are not happy. Its different if they are asking for help but I don’t go around thinking everybody needs helps, that’s disrespectful.

Friend – Akhila, Finance Associate

There is a certain discernment I’ve been blessed with so I’m just picky about who I let in my life because if you turn out to really be negative then I’ve done a disservice to self by not protecting my peace.

When you meet new females, take it slow. It’s not only with men you do this with. It’s with any relationship – earn it so that you can respect it and it can flourish from there.

3. Handling insecurities among women is also tricky but doable. One tip we are all flowers, no rose outshines the other. You may all just not be on the same confidence level which is okay. If you respect each other, then you know how to handle yourself when one is not feeling as great as the other. Pull her up, remind her that her beauty is unique and with time through self love, she will feel better.

4. Career support: Women, do you understand that we are powerful? So when you see another woman trying to find her purpose, help her within your capacity. Don’t over extend yourself as that ends in resentment. Just be positive, uplifting and cheerlead as they grow. If in different industries, you can actually get involved with each other’s profession and learn something new! Some times you may find that you have inspired your friend to chase their dreams as well.

The issue comes when you get in a competitive mindset and start to get ugly with it – so unnecessary.

5. Respect their spouses. Do not get nosy or intrude in their lives! If they ever need to talk to you, and need your input, they will ask. So don’t go offering unwarranted opinion on your idea of what love/dating should look like. Bye now!

6. During fights, maintain respect and give space to reflect. We women are very emotional and that’s okay but we need to be sensitive to each other’s feelings.

Happy Thursday love!

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Style Collaboration: Yours Clothing

Hey loves!

A trendy and fun plus size store based in the United Kingdom sent me the two items below to create curvy looks for my thick girls!

The name of the store is Yours Clothing and you can shop their products here;

The first is a cream ribbon tie top, with lace & bell sleeves. It is pretty, soft and romantic.

I paired it with a leather skirt to add some edge since I styled it for work. I think it’s also a great look for church. Don’t you agree?

The nude heels added balance to the opposite pieces and voila!

The second item from Yours Clothing is a black hoodie dress that I paired with a HM fedora, Christina Siriano mules and aldo earrings.

It’s great for transitioning from winter to spring and super comfortable!

Let me know what you think about the looks!

Items from this brand truly make me feel like your everyday woman as they are great & affordable pieces I feel every woman should have.

Until next time girls, muah!

Fashion Nova 2.0

Hey gals!

Here are more cute outfits from Fashion Nova styled by me. They are super trendy and still available for spring/summer.

Tell me what you think and don’t forget to use coupon code “LOVINGADEOLA” for $$ off Fashion Nova 🖤

Much love girls!

xoxo

Orange Satin Wrap Dress

Black Polka dot wrap top and Olive Green Jeans

Fashion Nova 1.0

Hey loves!

I am collaborating with Fashion Nova to see what the hype is and I’m now hooked! Girls brace yourselves because they sent me some items to style for you gals as well as a coupon code that’s below.

Enjoy each look and my review on the fit below. Happy viewing loves and happy new week! 🖤

Coupon Code – lovingadeola

White Sleeveless Leather Jacket and Jeans from Fashion Nova: This jacket makes me feel so sexy yet comfortable. It could go as edgy or chic with a pair of jeans like I did here.

As for their Jeans, amazing fit, bum lift, snug waist band and smooth cut!

Pink Marsala Blaza and Olive Green Jeans from Fashion Nova: I love the fit of this pretty jacket! To top it off, it has a slight and perky peplum that glams up your entire look!

Hope you enjoyed my review and these looks!

Stay tuned for more girls!

The importance of mastering detachment

Hey loves!

Detachment is described as disconnecting from a relationship, feeling, thought or assumption.

For clarity, I am referencing emotional detachment as it is a skill I am currently self training on. Believe me when I tell you my self love journey is no joke because I am always learning and changing (growing).

Lately, I had a negative experience I couldn’t shake off for a while. Matter of fact, the person that got me angered could feel it but I carried on with a horrible mood that day then learnt something great after talking to a mentor.

Emotional detachment from any situation is an early step that boosts ones chances of making logical decisions. When emotions get in the way, our judgement is flawed which usually leads to biased decision making. In this case, I could have saved my energy and realized my reaction was my power.

I’m usually good with that but like I said practice makes perfect and this is a required life skill that we should try to learn so that one can leverage this when needed.

Four benefits are;

– Lower chances of sabotaging situations.

– Better Judgement calls.

– Clarity even when emotions run high!

– Quick decision making skills

Thanks for reading love!

YOUR TURN to share – do you practice this? Have you ever had to detach? Talk to me.

Happy Valentines Day Adeola!

Hey loves!

As you may or may not know, I have been single for a year now and it has been an adventurous, emotional and rewarding journey!

I’m the happiest i have ever been and this time last year suicide was an option. I thank God because that will have been foolish of me. I have so much to give and say to the world before I leave so it doesn’t even make any sense!

I’ve been dating since I was sixteen and believe me, I was forced to grow up quickly and experienced more than I needed to which in turn affected my developing stages and habits I developed socially and personally. I also had no sense of self. In summary, I did not love myself.

Fast forward, I fell in love, it ended and then I was left to fix the mess I had created. For the first time in my life, the pain of the break up led me to ruthlessly chase happiness and ensure it never left me.

I’m doing fine now and loving me has been a journey I don’t regret – I’m reaching beautiful destinations 🖤