OMG! January is over!

Hey loves!

We are in the first quarter of the year and so far so good I am well! I hope you are too so I’m checking in to provide some lifestyle tips on what to do to ensure that you are on the right path towards achieving your goals this year.

Tip 1.

Are you in sync with your religion and spirituality?

If no, why not and if yes, that’s awesome! Keep up the good work.

Tip 2.

Full body Physical.

When was your last check up? Have you ever gotten a pap smear girls? Do you know your BMI? Do you eat healthy?

Tell the truth, hahaha!

Tip 3.

How are your energy levels?

You really do get what you put out there so if it’s low, chances are you don’t have much fun or may not be happy. Try to figure out why so you can exude positivity.

Tip 4.

Have you been preserving yourself?

I learnt this the hard way due to graduate school, blogging and a finance career. I’ve had to sacrifice some stuff such as partying, a few relationships, dating and to an extent traveling! Sometimes you really need to do nothing and just relax. The benefits are endless, just google them.

Tip 5.

How is your credit/financial health?

Are you in debt? Do you earn as much as you deserve? How are your savings?

Check on the bag even while securing it!

Until next time loves 🖤

Outfit Details

Top – Asos

Pants – Forever 21 Plus

Shoes and Bag – Payless

Green lipstick – Dr M. by Colorpop and Midnight Wasabi by Fenty Beauty

Photographer – Ronke Raji

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Pink January

Hey loves!

Here are two cute spring looks one of my besties and I shot in NY! It was so much fun!

Details

1. Pink Turtle neck – Goodwill

2. Pink Skater Skirt – Forever 21 Plus

3. Hot Pink Thigh-highs – Asos Curve

4. Baby Pink Sweater dress – HM

5. Puff Ball Earrings – HM

6. Berets – Pink Plastic Babes

7. Friends website – RonkeRaji.com

Self Love: Easing out of promiscuity

Hey girl, hey!

Today’s topic is sensitive but must be discussed because a lot of our girls are in pain and they don’t know why.

They are lost and going in circles looking for answers and I hope to provide clarity.

Sleeping around is not and will never be normal or acceptable because besides it being a sin, it has consequences that are not for the weak. Some are below;

– Constant body count increase

– Higher chances of STD contraction

– Lack of sense of self

– Nymphomania

– Unnecessary soul ties & more!

Now these are just a few but imagine all the harm you are putting your temple through and for what? Attention? Temporary satiation? Money?

Sex is sacred and to be shared between spouses with the end goal of procreation and not as a task, job or habit.

Sex ties into self love because as I continued my journey it was one of those domino effects that occur once you begin to love you. I started slow because trust me change takes time (true change I mean). I enjoyed it but once self love met me halfway I got picky with the men, then I got selfish with my time as far as being available and then I got even more selfish by choosing me and not even understanding why I should open my legs!

Personally, I want everlasting love that is unconditional and to give that I need to love me and become that love I hope to give AND receive. It is only right and part of the reasons I have not settled.

Other things to think about when meditating on this topic; Why do you have sex? Do you feel proud after climax? What are the benefits? Does your religion approve of sex before marriage? Is your receiver deserving of that love? What is your body count? How will you enjoy marriage if you keep sleeping around? If you don’t wait now, why will he wait while you’re 9 months pregnant if he never did so before? If he’s not your husband, why give him an unearned soul tie? Why?

Darling, here are five ways to ease into abstinence and stop messing with guys or having boyfriends to no end;

– Get productive and prioritize YOUR goals eg career, education, fitness, nutrition etc.

– Prayer.

– As you love yourself you know what you really want so try not to fall for just anything. Be patient.

– Get back in the gym to get fit for your health and that of your future child’s.

– Go for confession often, research suitable therapists and talk to trusted friends. I’m sure Jay-Z has said this too many times but it won’t hurt quoting him one last time – “you can’t heal what you don’t reveal”.

All my love girls!

Good luck 🖤

Got a dinner to go to?

Hey loves!

This outfit came to me when I realized I had some outfits with the rose patch trend and I knew it would look great together.

It can be worn to a birthday dinner at a pricy restaurant as the leather jacket dresses it down. You can also wear this to a day party or on a date with your spouse if going somewhere formal.

The dress is from a boutique called ‘ENVY U’ in Catonsville, Maryland while the jacket is from the forever 21 plus.

As a plus size lady, black is good for a classy & neat look as well as slimming one’s waist.

Would you wear this?

5 Long term effects of failed relationships

In my experience here are 5 common effects of a cycle of failed relationships;

1. Lack of self confidence and struggle with self love.

2. Trust issues in future relationships if healing is not achieved.

3. Lack of physical preservation (constant sexual relations).

4. Emotional exhaustion and psychological noise.

5. Disconnection with faith and almost joy as it will take a lot of strength to understand that the experiences were not God neglecting you but lessons you had to learn.

Thanks for reading loves!

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OUTFIT DETAILS

Dress – Asos

Slippers – Payless

Bag – Justfab