Ankara Love.

Hey loves!

Here is one of the outfits I wore during my birthday trip. I loved it so much and shot pictures to share with you girls so please enjoy below and stay tuned for more!

Much Love,





Got anxiety as a new week begins?


Me: Hey darling! How are you?

Friend: Im good, its f-ing Monday tomorrow and I just don’t feel good at all. So much to get done.

Me: Worrying is a waste of time my love. I can help you plan ahead so you can feel more in control and less stressed. By Friday, you would have achieved a lot and will be satisfied with your productivity which then allows you reward yourself by having a little fun.

Friend: I appreciate that so much but could you guide me further?

Me: Sure thing! So…I used to have anxiety every Sunday night knowing work started the next day. I didn’t enjoy work, I had errands to run, a dream to chase on the side, school work, a man to cater to, friends and family. I went crazy and almost forgot its all about me so every Sunday reminded me of how much I had to get done and how time just passed me by.

Friend: Sounds a lot like me right now but I don’t know what to do. Will just go get trashed and worry about it tomorrow.

Me: NEGATIVE BIT&H. Listen here and listen good. You want my input so here is what I know will ease your stress and alleviate anxiety. Matter of fact, I will write it so you can always refer to it when you feel like this;

  • If you don’t have a planner, get one and organize your week going forward. Itemizing tasks helps you stay organized and strategize priorities. It also feels amazing when you can cross it of your to do list.
  • Eliminate any sources of negative energy be it friends, super unhealthy food, a grudge you’re holding on to etc. Anything that is not positive is really not welcome including your thoughts.
  • Exercise – it strengthens your mind and allows for clarity while alleviating stress. Triple win If you ask me.
  • Ask your friends/family for support especially when the tasks are out of the ordinary e.g court for speeding ticket (courts make me nervous lol) or even a first day at crossfit as it can be challenging.
  • Finally, prayer is key. Anytime I pray, its almost as if a burden has been lifted knowing God will take care of me. If you are not a believer, you can still pray because it gives room for hope, any other spiritual practice that encourages you may also help.

Friend: Adeola, this is really helpful. I will try these suggestions and get back to you.

Adeola: Anytime dear, I am always here for support. Always!



To my readers:
If you ever need to talk about managing life and staying organized, please do not hesitate to leave your email below and I will get back to you within 24hrs 🙂




Real talk girl, this is why you need to stay fit!


As I grow older, I understand the adage health is wealth even more. A lot of us are missing the point when it comes to staying fit and think its all about looking good.

See…you can look great but have low self esteem etc. Staying fit is bigger than that. Think about it this way, why work hard now and make so much money to enjoy your twenties and thirties and by forty-five, you start having health issues just because you didn’t pay attention to self care. What is the point of having a job and 401k If you cannot reap the rewards later? You feel me?

On that note, loving yourself enough to stay fit or initiate the process is worth it because it aids wellness, alleviates stress and allows us the opportunity to enjoy life to the fullest.

Here are a few tips on kicking off a fitness journey If you read this post but it almost went out the other ear LOL!

  • Drink water only. It will pay off and you can add a lemon for detox and flavor.
  • Slowly eat more protein and less carbs.
  • To start, get into fun sporty activities i.e hiking, zumba class with your bestie, do swimming races with a bunch of friends etc. and as your body adjusts, you’ll figure out what you really need.
  • Sleep as much as you need because activity requires rest & recharge.
  • Reduce the number of times you eat out as It forces you to eat fresh food which is truly the better option.

Some examples of celebrities who understood this concept and decided to get fit are Rick Ross, Fat Joe,  Jennifer Hudson, Shonda Rhymes and Kelly Osbourne. You can’t tell me they are not happier right now!

Personally, I weighed 325lbs last year but this year, I now weigh 260lbs. If you follow me on Instagram, you will see the slow progression of my weight loss but I have never really talked about it and how I lost the weight slowly so here is a brief history below.

I started off by taking the stairs instead of an elevator, drinking tea instead of soda, trying to eat twice daily since I was used to skipping meals and then binging late at night, following friends to work out and eventually doing cross-fit with my siblings which I quit based on my personality. Too much pressure and I was super shy so I decided to figure it out myself. After all, I’m doing it for me right? What works for one person may not work for another which is normal.

Over time, I hadn’t figured out portion control but I continued cardio and strength training almost daily for 35/40 mins every morning(weekdays only) before I went to work. From doing that, I found that I enjoyed having a routine and it gave me something to look forward to every morning. I slowly ate less and this is how I lost about 65lbs last year. I will keep going and enjoying the journey but as you can see I did not mount myself with unnecessary pressure or overthink it at all. I knew why I wanted to keep fit and slowly got to it.

Currently, I own an elliptical in my bedroom and do my best to stay on track. I hope to do more as time goes by but I am happy and fit even though I’m still thick and juicy. Can you say the same? Yea, naaaaaaaa LOL

Much Love,


It’s already July: Are you woke?

Looking for my goals, lol

 Happy mid-year all!

For a brief intro on the purpose of my blog, please refer to the about me page.
That being said, we can now jump into today’s post!

Today is my birthday and sadly this time last year, I promised myself to do better with everything going forward but I didn’t. Why? I did not set any goals or even pray about what I wanted so I’m not sure who I was deceiving besides myself.

I made some progress I won’t discredit but with planning and prayer, I am sure I would have achieved even more (If I’m being honest with my inner self). Mind you, these were necessary goals such as launch a fashion blog, lose 100 pounds, date the right man and not out of loneliness etc. I was able to lose 50 pounds, wasted my time dating the wrong guy when I didn’t even love me and lastly, created a blog but never really released a blog post. Sigh.

I said all that to say, planning and prayer are two key ingredients for a happy life. To achieve any goal, one should write steps and track progress to keep him/her on track. We are now in July and I’m sure on New Years eve you had the audacity to tell yourself you will achieve some new things; take that pottery class, socialize more, go back to school etc. If you fall in this category, 2017 is not over yet, you can take your power back, pray to God asking for focus and forge ahead towards achieving what you really want.

To help, the questions below can help you find clarity on the status of your goals so you know where you left off and can continue;

Do I love me? How am I feeling right now and lately? How was the first half of the year? Did I go through any life altering changes? Am I happy? Am I healthy? Do I need to reassess my finances? How is my credit score? How close am I to graduation (if in school)? Am I enjoying the relationship I am in? Is it healthy? Did I find my purpose? Do I enjoy my career? If yes, am I growing?

I hope this helps you get woke If you fell asleep on you.

Much love,